Impending fatherhood is a slow, rolling tidal wave of unfamiliar emotions.

Even though the fathers emotions arent the main focus of the pregnancy, they are important to manage.

At the top of the list for many: negotiating paternity leave.

If youre lucky enough to work in an environment that embraces that paradigm shift, Godspeed!

I however, was not.

After my son was born, my paternity leave was cut short and I lost my job.

Here are some steps you’ve got the option to take in negotiating your paternity leave.

That said, the biggest mistake you’ve got the option to make is to not ask.

This isnt an emotional argument, but a rational one.

The hundreds of employers surveyed found that the leave hadminimal impact on their business operations.

The benefits, on the other hand, proved startling.

The first few weeks of your babys life are impossible to get back once theyve passed.

Dont let misplaced guiltor a stubborn devotion to traditional masculinitycost you timeless, irreplaceable memories.

Out of gratitude, I never asked for that in writing.

I protested, but didnt have any documented proof of what had been discussed in my earlier meeting.

Do your research before you meet with your employer.

Take careful consideration of any language involving title and salary.

Proactive preparation is better than reflexive action, especially when you want to be focused on your newborn.

Take notes about what you like about their arrangements, and what youd rather avoid.

This will provide you with context on what other companies are doing and give you additional negotiating leverage.

Again, if you make an individualized addendum to any existing policy, get the agreement in writing.

Show them you value their support by establishing a coverage plan shortly after you announce the news.

Are there clients or customers who require advance notice?

Is anyone else in the department out of the office during your paternity leave?)

and ensure you give your colleagues time to ask their own questions.

That can snowball rapidly.

Read it over before you return to the office.