So, youve been rejected.
Maybe someone turned you down, maybe you got dumped, maybe your partner asked for space.
How do you win them back?
Heres how you accept rejection as the hard no that it is.
Someones dumped you, but they still want to have sex?!
It can be very, very complicated and, generally, is not very healthy.
It can disrupt the possibility of moving on.
If you think its the path towards a reconciliation, youre almost certainly headed towards another rejection.
Believe them the first time
Communication is one of the most important parts of any relationship.
Without it, were subject to all sorts of misunderstandings, resentments, and general misery.
Communication requires making yourself vulnerable, and saying whats in your heart; it also requires trust.
When someone says something to you, trust that they mean it.
If you need clarification, thats fair to ask forbut not forever.
Annear says reaching out again and again is a bad idea:
Reaching out after the relationship has ended.
The question is: Why?
What do I need from my former partner?
If you keep messaging or calling someone long after the end of your relationship, you dont need clarification.
you gotta move on.
Well, its nice for you, if not for everyone watching.
But if the love youre feeling isnt mutual, a romantic gesture is usually just creepy and weird.
Typically, this does not include what we consider to be our flaws.
Things we are embarrassed about, think make us less than, or fear might be cause for rejection.
There are no perfect partners - there are human beings, with their incredible gold and their flaws.
Being heard, seen, honored and loved are the things we all deserve.
We also deserve that from ourselves.
You not only have to let go of the person, but of your fantasy self.
If you really think about it, that might be whats really so upsetting about rejection.
Try instead to want to be loved as you are, by someone else.
