While I understand the sentiment, I have to disagree with this dismal outlook.
The get ignored or get mocked binary is a false one.
There are plenty of options for the middle road.
Many bloggers,myselfincluded, have emphasized the need to personalize the messages you send on dating apps.
The market is too competitive for the one-size-fits-all pick-up lines of yore.
you should probably actually respond to something specific in someones profile if you want to start a fruitful conversation.
With that in mind, what use is this article?
Perhaps where youre going wrong is by swooping in with an observation instead of question.
or Got any concerts youre looking forward to?
If you recognize the venue or musician, even better.
If they mention the number of countries they visited…
Travel pics are a dating profile staple.
Your instinct might be to ask Where was this photo taken?
but I encourage you to ask a more open-ended conversation-starter.
As someone fairly well-traveled, Id rather be asked about where I want to visitnextover where Ive already been.
Alternatively, bucket lists give you plenty of room for a fun, flirty back-and-forth.
The good ol I caught a fish pic.
Its the perfect amount of weird to ensure you stand out.
If you want to compliment their looks…
Were not all looking for a soulmate.
Wow, youre gorgeous, sounds like you copy/pasted that to a hundred profiles before mine.
Not only can physical compliments sound impersonal, they can also come across as real off-putting real quick.
Hit on hot people the same way youd hit on someone for their personality.
Revolutionary, I know.
Focus on the beach, not the bod.
If their profile made you laugh…
Tell them why.
Not to brag, but Ive gotten a few you seem funny DMs in my day.
Unfortunately, my wit doesnt know what to do with that other than say thank you.
Use the initial compliment as a launching point for a bigger conversation starter.
Even if youre grasping at straws, this approach at least gives the funny person something to work with.
Oh, and if youre something a comedian yourself?
make a run at build off the jokes in their profile.
Nothing says love connection like the ability to quoteIts Always Sunnyback and forth.
If they have a niche meme…
The inclusion of a meme on someones dating profile is tricky territory.
If theres a tag yourself element involved, take that and run with it.
Otherwise, Id avoid the allure of the meme and respond to a different photo altogether.
Or, take a more general you made me laugh approach, as described above.
If they say sarcasm is my second language…
Swipe left.
The best way to be your best self is to master the art of casual weird.
Casual weird describes responses that make you stand out without pushing people away, e.g.
calling yourself dead inside, but crucially,not really meaning it.
The takeaway is to actually take the time to work with the specifics of someones profile.
In this economy, youve got to be clever so that catch someones eye.
Better to be a little weird than a little boring.
