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Or they say they live too far.
Or just dont respond at all.
Heres another poor soul:
Hey, so I match with guys often but it never goes anywhere.
Im very close to conceding and leaving dating behind… What should I do?
The match itself is saying hello, so you dont need to say it again doofus.
Besides, its impersonal and does nothing to make the other person feel special.
Jump right into the good stuff.
Good conversation is nice to have, but save it for when youre in person.
Intention is hard to read in text communication.
For example, a message like, Hi!
So you like board games?
You know they like board games because it said so in their profile.
Are you asking them to confirm?
Chances are theyre much different in person and youll be disappointed.
Dont set yourself up for that!
Trying to make plans right off the bat also helps you weed out peoplein two different ways.
Does reading about them excite you?
Are you attracted them?
Great, go for it.
If not, move on.
Also, if theyarea serial killer, chatting with them only gives them the chance to manipulate you.
That can only happen in person.
Ask someone outif they see your profile and like what they see, theyll go for it.
Okay, so, what does a good online dating message look like?
Say you find the intriguing profile of an attractive person that doesnt seem sketchy.
Heres what you could say:
Hey!
You seem pretty cool and I like your sense of style.
Want to grab a drink this Saturday and talk about how awesome Westworld is?
Tasty Za is a great pizza joint and bar stocked with local craft beer!
Give it a try!
