(you’ve got the option to also just say nothing.
Saying nothing is fine too.)
You look great, have you lost weight?
This comment means well, it really does.
However, the implication here is that thinner is betternot exactly body positive.
You didnt/dont need to lose weight, you know.
Perhaps the good intentions behind this comment are that the person losing weight was always beautiful or worthy.
However, this comment still suggests that they should look a certain waythin or fat or anywhere in-between.
How much weight did you lose?
Talking numbers is tacky.
Boiling down such a multi-layered experience into a few digits can be invasive and potentially belittling.
Whats your secret?
Besides,there really is no secret.
Good for you.
/ You look so much better.
Avoid anything that insults how they used to look so you can compliment how they look now.
How many pounds do you have to go?
Ah, the implication that there must be more work to do!
Keep this one to yourself.
Its like youre a completely different person.
This one is a loaded gun.
This sort of comment makes that process even more challenging.
You are so lucky!
Oh come on, you’re able to have [snack/drink/temptation].
Best not to comment on what they are or arent eating.
You looktooskinny.
Maybe you genuinely feel someone appears unhealthy or is being unsafe in some way.
If thats the case, rather than commenting on their appearance, have a go at ask inviting questions.
For example: How have you been lately?
or I feel like maybe you havent been yourself lately.
What can (or should) you say instead?
Leave out the word weight.
If someone is proud of their weight loss, this invites them to bring it up on their own.
