Threesomes are exciting, but they still typically require planning and self-reflection beforehand.
Ask yourself these questions before pursuing one.
Why do you want to have a threesome?
Its important to understand your motivations here.
Are you genuinely interested in trying a new experience or are you feeling pressure from your partner?
If youre not 100% about it, you may not be ready for any fallout.
Your intentionshouldbe based solely on your desires and comforts, not on any other external forces or expectations.
What do you want to get out of the experience?
Identifying what you want to get out of it will help you approach the threesome the right way.
Are you looking for deep connection or straight-up physical gratification?
What kind of threesome do you want?
Do you want to do FMF (female/male/female), MMF (male/male/female), or something more fluid?
Whose face goes where?
Whose arm is that?
Its better to have a plan.
What are your boundaries?
After[wards], it is important to take stock of how the two of you both feel.
Check in with each other.
Establishing clear boundaries is integral in any sexual encounter.
Discuss your boundaries with potential partners and be sure everyone is on the same page.
How solid is your relationship?
Regardless of the stage of ones relationship, its not a decision to be made lightly.
Jealousy can be a natural emotion that comes up during a threesome.
Its important to consider how that may or may not affect your relationship.
Are you prepared for any feelings of resentment that could arise from it?
Do you have an exit strategy?
Communicate in the moment, too.
If you want a break but dont necessarily want the person to get dressed and dip, say that.
If youdowant them to leave, say that, too.
A threesome can be a thrilling experience when prepared for properly.
That being said, there is no perfect way to have a threesome.
What helps is knowing your wants and needs and being able to communicate and negotiate them with others involved.
