Not all advice need be professional.
Luckily for you, Im that guy.
Welcome back to Tough Love.
Note: Im a columnist, not a therapist or certified healthcare professional.
My advice should be interpreted with that in mind.
If you have a problem with anything I say,file a complaint here.Now, let us begin.
Dear Sam,
Im 32 years
old and having zero luck and no fun dating.
Its been 4 years trying on and off, getting absolutely nothing and nowhere.
Ive tried online dating all of three months then deleted it, no one talks.
I got like one match and they never responded.
I spent days changing and tweaking my profile for nothing, it seems.
I dont know what to do.
Often when were playing the field, we yearn for an immediate payoff.
Dating is a process, and an annoying and potentially heartbreaking one at that.
Theres a reason that dating sucks is a fairly common refrain, reflected in myriadbooksandpodcasts.
With that in mind, know that this isnt necessarily a you problem.
Still, the issue could be with how youre presenting yourself, particularly in your online dating profiles.
Are you using low-res, grainy photos, or selfies from four years ago?
Does your profile provide a window into who you actually are?
Are youwell-versed in the subtle art of the thirst trap?
Youve said youve spent days changing and tweaking your page, so maybe you already know this.
If thats the case, give it more time!
venture to moderate your use.
As for your friends who you say are getting datesscrew em.
And whileIbelieve thats true, its far more important thatyoubelieve it.
Theres no secret recipe theyre employing; it very well could just be luck of the draw.
At the same time, you could ask some of them how theyve been meeting these dates.
And one more word of advice: Try not to stress!
Youre more emotionally mature and you know what you want.
Be true to yourself and continue to make the effort, because it obviously matters to you.
Thats it for this week, but theres plenty more Tough Love to go around.
Until next time, take care of yourselves!
