Not all advice need be professional.
Luckily for you, Im that guy.
Welcome back to Tough Love.
Note: Im a columnist, not a therapist or certified healthcare professional.
My advice should be interpreted as such.
If you have a problem with anything,file a complaint here.Now, let us begin.
Since we matched, weve texted every day and gone on multiple FaceTime dates.
Weve had really vulnerable conversations about our pasts but not our feelings about each other.
No two situations are the same, but two common questions pervade them all: Whatarewe?
and Do we want the same thing out of this relationship?
So though the pandemic has prevented you from meeting IRL, you arent in completely uncharted territory here.
What youve spelled out suggests youve established the bedrock of a healthy, supportive relationship.
Youve had candid, vulnerable conversations about your pasts.
(You did meet on a dating app, after all.)
Where does he see it going, potentially?
The thought of asking him these questions is uncomfortable, for sure.
Its also possible that this conversation wont be easy, so be prepared.
What do you think?
Notice that youre not demanding that he commit to anything.
Youre merely asking whether hed give this a shot, were cyberspace not separating you two.
Thats the emotionally honest, mature, adult way to go about this.
There comes a time when you have to stop bullshitting.
This happened to me with a couple women I dated years ago.
It didnt feel great, but I eventually wised up to it and stopped playing the game.
Bottom line: he owes you an answer.
Thats it for this week, but theres plenty more Tough Love to go around.
Until next time, take care of yourselves!
