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I dont know whether this is an actual problem or Im just being a petty little shit.
I need your perspective.
My roommate and I got along so well, we just seemed to mesh seamlessly.
My boyfriend and I are not meshing as seamlessly.
Primarily, the issue is food, Sam.
Delivery orders, to be precise.
I dont eat seafood and my roommate didnt particularly like it anyway so it worked out.
I reminded him that I didnt eat seafood (he knows this!)
so he would be on his own eating that.
What the heck?!
Whats the point of delivery if you dont have enough for leftovers?
He says its not good after two days.
I dont know seafood so I dont know whether thats accurate or just him being particular.
But he keeps blaming me for ordering too much and I dont care for that!
Anyway, whats the deal here?
Is he punking me with constantly ordering seafood but eating the non-seafood instead?
Is he power tripping?
Is this a sign of greater problems to come?
Am I making a shark out of a minnow here?
I feel annoyed and I dont know whether my annoyance is justified.
Can I suggest we not do family style anymore or is it too late/in poor form?
Your guidance is appreciated.
On one level, I get your frustration, but on another level, Im laughing.
Your issue, though, is an odd one.
Maybe he was raised a sailor with a rogue band of pirate friends.
But from your account of these failed family-style dinners, it sounds like he doesnt understand his own taste.
Your empty stomach is evidence enough that this seafood fantasy is having a detrimental effect on your dinners.
And its time you said something about it.
This could be simple enough.
Theres simply no other way to put an end to this problem.
To answer your question about whether your doing so would be being in poor form,of course not.
The man is eating your food.
Thats enough to vex anyone, let alone someone ravenous.
So whats preventing you from bringing this up?
Are you afraid of his reaction?
Men: were a flawed species).
But the most pivotal aspect of this discussion ishowhe reacts.
Now think of yourself.
Why are you even questioning whether to bring up the fact that hes not leaving you with enough food?
you gotta eat, damnit!
Whats preventing you from advocating for yourself?
I cant determine that for you, but you should definitely think about it.
Usually, its no big deal, provided the other person isnt personally offended by the issues you raise.
But therein lies the question: Are you afraid of telling him to lay off your chicken?
And if so, why?
This is a simple enough first impasse in your nascent cohabitation.
Thats it for this week, but theres plenty more Tough Love to go around.
Until next time, take care of yourselves!
