Nothing evokes panic about keeping up with the Joneses quite like sexual frequency.
We all seem to be obsessed with making sure were having just the right amount of sex.
The truth is, there is no magic number that will work for every couple.
Relationships, and people, are just different.
Nonetheless, itispossible to figure out what level of frequency works for your relationship.
Roughly half of that beginning frequency is a more manageable standard.
On the timeline of your relationship, when were the two of you the happiest with your sex life?
Do you remember any specific details about your sex life at that time?
People in same-sex or otherwise queer relationships tend to have broader definitions of what constitutes sex.
Can you guess which group consistently reports greater sexual satisfaction?
Fortunately, there are so many other options.
When there are more options on the table, sex naturally feels much more enticing and satisfying.
Focus on quality over quantity
Having sex solely to hit a quota is rarely pleasurable.
Take the time to think about your favorite sexual memories with your partner.
What does good sex mean to you?
Does it mean having orgasms?
Working your way through a book of sex positions?
Every couple is going to have to navigate differences in their sexual needs.
In my experience, couples are happiest when they each feel that their needs are important to the other.
This is where that expanded definition of sex really becomes important.
(Especially now.)
Sex is easy to put on the back burner.
Sometimes that means trying to get in the mood even when youre feeling tired or lazy.
I always forget how much I like sex.
If you wind up getting in the mood, go ahead and have sex with your partner!
If you dont, its still great to have more touch in your relationship.
