Popular advice for women generally has you toning and spending entire days doing exercises for your butt.

So where do you even start?

Id like to share some of the things Ive learned over the years.

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In the meantime, heres what you better know.

Practicing heavier and heavier lifts will also make you stronger in those specific lifts.

Often specifically dudes in their teens and 20s.

woman alone in a garage style gym, about to probably power clean that barbell

All of this will hold true no matter your gender.

Specific numbers are often written with dudes in mind

So whats different?

Often, specifically dudes in their teens and 20s.

And if youre not, you may need to adjust a few things.

But is doing that work worthwhile in the long term?

For example: The increases from workout to workout will depend on what your body can handle.

You dont have to throw the whole plan away.

It can seem, when youre looking atsomething like Starting Strength, that its simply not made for you.

And, yeah, its notwrittenwith you in mind.

That includes many women.

It may not take long before you have more leg muscle than the stereotypical bro who skips leg day.

But dont stop there.

But your upper body muscles will respond to training just like any muscle will.

If you think your upper body is weak, you should train itmore.

Your effort will be rewarded.

Higher volume training can often help.

I made my best gains on overhead press when I was doing it five times a week.

As with anything else in life, train hard and youll get results.

It feels super badass to have a huge bench when you previously thought you were doomed to T-rex arms.

When youre training, it doesnt matter so much whats true of women in general or men in general.

You pick up a weight, and you either lift it or you dont.

It doesnt matter whether somebody else could have lifted that weight more times than you or not.

You train to getyourselfstrong.

But thats just me.

I asked powerlifting coach Claire Zai about this.

If your menstrual cycle affects your training, your training can adapt as needed.

But you dont have to go into training with the assumption that youre going to be weak.

Weve all had bad days during which we still put in a good performance.

The most important thing you could do is be consistent, says Zai.

If youre having cramps or feeling tired, exercise often helps you feel better.

Without naming names or repeating allegations, Ill just say that instinct has so far never steered me wrong.

You start to get a better idea of what is possible and what you might aspire to.

The human body is more resilient than it is delicate.

Plenty of dumb gym bros test this theory every day, and usually come out alive.

The best community to find is one where people believe in you.

While that sounds smart on paper, it often sets women up to fail in the end.

The human body is more resilient than it is delicate.

Plenty of dumb gym bros test this theory every day, and usually they come out of it alive.

Probably quit overthinking things and pick up a weight, right?

you’ve got the option to do that, too.