Cunnilingus has an undeserved reputation as one of the trickiest sexual acts to perform well.
I think this characterization is grounded in culturaljudgments of the vulva as being complicatedand mysterious.
Lets lay this unfair reputation to rest with some straightforward advice on performing awesome cunnilingus.
As a sex therapist, Ive read alotof sexual advice books.She Comes Firsteasily ranks in my personal top five.
So, with his advice, heres a step-by-step guide to learning how to give your partner great head.
Some worry that their partners are finding the experience unpleasant.
Others dislike being the center of attention, or find themselves unable to relax when receiving.
Kerner says part of doing so involves changing your own perceptions of oral sex.
One of the biggest misconceptions about cunnilingus is that outercourse is less satisfying than intercourse.
For many, oral sex is the most physically pleasurable sexual act.
Theres no rush; she has all the time in the world.
You want to savor every moment.
Her scent is provocative, her taste powerful.
It all emanates from the same, beautiful essence.
The clitoris is extremely sensitive, so you dont want to dive in right away.
Once youre down there, continue taking your time.
Kerner says to start with light vertical licks from bottom to top.
Let her do some of the work by pressing her body into your gum line.
Whatever you do, just see to it youre prepared to take your time.
Another said it felt like a cobra defending itself from a mongoose.
Translation: its better to be gentle and methodical than too rough or overly acrobatic.
That means you have to find a method that works and stick with it.
Theres no fluff like, just keep licking!
Everything is laid out for you.
As her arousal is increasing, you might insert a single finger, or possibly two.
Dont give a shot to fuck her vagina with either tongue or fingers.
Press your fingers upwards into her G-spot, while applying persistent licks.
Some like oral and manual stimulation at the same time, while others dont.
Some orgasm best from tongue circles around the clitoris, others prefer a light sucking motion.
If they know what they like, theyll probably gladly tell you.
Make a seal between your gum and her front commissure.
Continue to apply persistent licks.
Do not let yourself get sped up by their rising intensity.
Keep being deliberate and methodical.
If you do, you may have a very frustrated partner on your hands.
