Finding the motivation to clean is harder for some than for others.

Heres what to do if youre really struggling.

Ask yourself honestly what youre struggling with and how you’ve got the option to move past it.

Overall, Connor is a major proponent of self-talk.

Say these things objectively because if you bring shame and finger-wagging, youre going to shut down self-reflection.

Another way to do this is to ask someone else, like a trusted friend or even a therapist.

Ask someone you trust to be honest with you about your qualities and self-assessment.

Do they see you as a procrastinator?

As someone who puts off doing difficult things?

Knowing yourself is the first step to figuring out whats actually preventing you from cleaning.

Do hard things (sorry!)

In conversation with Connor andDr.

Dont do this for ego, though.

Do it with the knowledge youll eventually be able to say, Thank goodness.

I can go put my feet up now.

you’ve got the option to change.

You may never become someone wholikescleaning, but you might absolutely become someone who gets it done.

Thats basically the foundation of psychology, after all: The idea that people can change.

The optimal environment for growth is a combination of support and challenge, says Connor.

You do have to challenge yourselfwhilesupporting yourself, but it’s possible for you to change.

How do you do that?

“By doing it.”

Its another to actually do them.Dr.

Linda Sapadin, a psychologist, coach, and author, says, Dont overwhelm yourself.

Do a little bit at a time, like put away clothes in your bedroom.

Then reward yourself with a pat on the back and a good job.

If you’re able to go longer, do it.

Getting overwhelmed wont help you, but chipping away will.

Whatever you do, dont be defeatist.

People ask for help all the time, for all kinds of things.

you could ask for help with your cleaning.

Instead, Have somebody else hold it up and say, Do you need this?

Do you want this?

Beyond friends, though, you might call on pros.

As for the cleaning itself, call a service if you’re gonna wanna.

She says, You dont want to create a situation where theres no win.

If you solve a problem and you could make it happen, thats a win.

Panicking, procrastinating, or talking unkindly to yourself wont get the house cleanand thats not a win.

A win is a win.

Focus on a win.

That can kick you in gear to clean a little.

In fact, its what works for me when Im feeling overwhelmed.

You don’t want a week’s worth of dirty dishes in the sink when your cleaning person arrives.

Youre not alone, but you do have to motivate yourself and get to work.