it’s crucial that you communicate clearly
Tell any and all other partners what youre up to!
ENM relationships are fine, as is dating around on your own, but only if everyone knows.
If youre hiding something, ask yourself why.
Youll also run across plenty of people who are not-so-ethically non-monogamous or not-so-clearly looking to date or sleep around.
Be like the first group of people.
If youre worried someone on your roster will object to therebeinga roster, too damn bad.
They have the right to be opposed and not be deceived.
It makes me feel like Im not enough.
Again, you should probably talk it out.
The problems arose once they became serious and Morsestoppedtalking to others, but the boyfriend didnt.
Be open to change
You may thinkyoure only interested in a slutty summer.
You may thinkyou only want non-monogamy.
You may think alotof things that end up totally irrelevant when you meet someone who changes it all.
And if you are, go from thereand dont be afraid to go off-course.
This tip is especially important if you are going to ignore the first one.
(No shade, just saying.)
These are just the facts.
Its their right, right?
You dont know the other people theyre banging.
Seriously, wrap it before you tap it.
I feel like less of a freak when Im dating polyamorously, she told Lifehacker.
Im generally a person whos very hungry for deep engagement.
When Im monog, I just feel overly sensitive and like Im too much or trying too hard.
I tend to focus too obsessively on the one person/relationship, which always kills it.
Its a mentally healthier balance for me.
Use this opportunity to figure out who you are and what you want.
Feel your feelings all the way and as shamelessly as it’s possible for you to, advised Mosthof.
Youre not special and your problems are not unique, which is to say, youre not alone!
Process everything, identify your needs, and hit it one more time.
