Datings hard as it is.
For those in recovery from substance abuse, or simply dont drink, it can be even harder.
Dating someone sober and looking for a few tips on how to have a discussion around alcohol?
I spoke to two experts about how to initiate the conversation and why having empathy is crucial.
Certainly, you dont have to keep diving into it, but asking a few questions is not off-limits.
Showing empathy by listening is the best approach when someone informs you of their sobriety.
But whats the simple best way to respond to someone who has openly discussed their sobriety?
And often times, that can spark a larger conversation,dating coach Connell Barrettadded.
I had a first date with an ex-girlfriend, at the time, said.
We met at a bar.
I was drinking, she wasnt.
We talked for about 20 minutes about where and how she got to that point.
It was fascinating to me and it connected us.
She was willing and open to talk about it.
They might not want to tell someone for fear of being judged.
I know a lot of people might make up something else.
One of the standard stories is, Im on antibiotics so Im not drinking right now.
Instead, enjoy their company and let the topic come up at their discretion.
But a lot of that depends [on] where the person is at in their recovery.
Are you okay with that?
And just because one person is sober doesnt mean that a long-term relationship cant work, according to Barrett.
[But] I look at alcohol as completely irrelevant to the equation of two people being together long-term.
Thats more about connection, empathy, and having their big life goals in order.
All that matters is your connection and your ability to openly communicate.
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