When we refer to someone who is extremely online, its pretty literal.

This is someone who knowsand referencesall the latest memes and never the outdated ones that peaked three weeks ago.

They are always on Twitter and, if not participating in the daily discourse, at least observing it.

They can recite dril tweets, know what a milkshake duck is, and speak in TikTok audios.

Its fine to be extremely online.

Many of us are.

But when one not-online person is in a relationship with an extremely online one, there can be friction.

Heres how to deal.

It might seem frivolous or simple, but this can be a big deal in the long run.

Someone with a hefty online presence has to commodify a lot of the parts of their life.

We all follow influencers who are in relationships.

Consider your perspective as a consumer.

What do you expect from those who post their relationships?

Whether you realize it or not, you probably expect a lot of personal details and updates.

The downside to this is evident.

TikTok stars, for instance, have had to make big publicannouncementswhen they break up.

Imagine having to script, film, and edit something like that.

If youre not down to commodify your personal connection like that, dont do it.

She said he will ask her not to post certain things about him and she always respects his wishes.

She found, too, that once she was bood up, her content itself changed.

Basically, navigating this unique situation requires a lot of communication.

Set times for phone-free togetherness

Endless scrolling is real.

Its such a notable phenomenon in the modern age that apps even warn against it.

TikTok regularly interrupts scrolls with a gentle suggestion to put your phone down.

(Im also supposed to avoid posturing and embrace the ocean and used bookstores, apparently.)

Set clear times for phone and computer use and then stick to them.

Watching a show can be fun and easy.

That can be fine, though.

Just talk out expectations beforehand.

Reevaluate your priorities and ask if they align with the other persons.

Speak up if things go too far

you’re free to find anything online.

You already know this.

Largely, this abundance of information and resources is a good thing.

It can also lead to some less-than-good things.

you could and should speak up here.

If one persons digital behavior is impacting your relationship, its worth mentioning and working through.