You dont even have to arguebut more about that in a minute.
First, give a shot to differentiate good-faith, actually helpful advice from the bullshit that masquerades as such.
Look, it even happens to me.
Thats a natural response, but attempt to catch yourself when you react that way.
Do I actually want a form check?Most of us already know what were working on.
Its a process, and its working.
Even if you want a form check from people online, thatsa request to make thoughtfully.
But hey remember that not all advice is good advice.
In fact, some of the loudestreply guyshave the worst advice.
While it might be tempting to tell that troll just why theyre wrong, thats not your only option.
So lets talk about some of the other options.
Catharsis can be helpful.
The troll wants attention, either from others or from you, by making you mad.
Deleting the comment denies them that satisfaction.
I dont like to mute or hide people when theyre jerks.
Why should this person live rent-free in my head?
In this case, catharsis can be helpful.
You dont need to involve the awful person in this whatsoever.
Social support is huge as a coping strategy.
You feel less alone, and it can help you get your confidence back.
What if I know the person?
I once had somebody comment that mysquat depthwas erotic.
I didnt block him.
He immediately apologized, saying he hadnt thought about it that way, and never did it again.
To be totally, absolutely clear: You do not owe anyone this sort of second chance.
It is a gift that you may choose to bestow if you are feeling generous.
Otherwise, theres a good enough toolkit in deleting, blocking, reporting, ignoring, and roasting.
