Rimming is having a moment.
Heres everything you should probably know if youre curious about giving rimming a try.
The anus has nerve endings and enjoys being stimulated.
And for the record, people of any gender or sexual orientation can enjoy rimming.
Of course, as with any other sexual activity, you better get your partners enthusiastic consent before proceeding.
Rimming is not a good activity to spring on someone by surprise.
Prepare to rim
The receiver of a rim job should verify to bathe first.
But this is a pretty intense step that really isnt necessary.
Only do it if it will help you relax enough to enjoy the rimming.
If the giver is a male, he may want to consider shaving his facial scruff.
Scruff is pretty polarizing.
Some people like the added stimulation of a little scruff, while others find it uncomfortable.
You may want to err on the side of caution and get rid of your five oclock shadow.
Longer facial hair is typically fine, since its a lot softer.
Its best to get them relaxed and excited with plenty of foreplay.
Plus, rimming doesnt feel that great if you go straight for it.
Do whatever activities you typically like to do for foreplay.
Then start to caress their ass.
Cup their cheeks in your hands and squeeze.
Trace a fingertip along the area where their butt cheeks meet their thighs.
it’s possible for you to also kiss and lick along their cheeks.
Tease your partner along their butt crack, starting to venture towards the anus but not quite hitting it.
Get into position
When your partner is ready to go, get them into position.
The best position for rimming is to have the receiving partner on all fours on the bed.
Continue licking and caressing all over their body, to get them even more excited.
Use protection
Its possible to transmit STIs through analingus.
A dental dam works well with rimming.
Another note of caution: if your partner is female-bodied, dont lick from anus to vagina.
The vagina is sensitive to outside bacteria, and can get irritated or infected.
Lubricate
Since the rectum doesnt self-lubricate, youll need to keep the area nice and wet.
see to it to use plenty of saliva.
If youre using protection, confirm to get it wet under and on top of your barrier.
This will help transmit the sensation better, making the barrier feel less barrier-like.
The basics
The act of rimming itself isnt that complicatedsimply work your tongue around the anus.
Going in circles is the easiest technique.
you could adjust the diameter of your circles, moving farther apart and then closer together.
Or try doing figure-eights, crossing over the anus itself.
This will expose even more area for you to work with, and feels great for your partner.
Try playing with his perineum and testicles.
Rimming pairs really well with other sexual activities.
Try fingering your partners asshole as you rim it.
Or stimulate your partners breasts, clitoris, vagina, or penis as you play with their anus.
This story was originally published in 2018 and updated on October 10, 2020 with style and formatting changes.
