But the prostate can be so much more fun that that!
Unfortunately, a lot of heterosexual men feel embarrassed exploring anything butt-related.
That taboo has been decreasing over the last few years, but its still frustratingly prevalent.
What is the prostate, anyway?
The prostate is a small gland in the male reproductive system.
It aids in producing and releasing ejaculatory fluid.
During arousal, the prostate swells up with fluid, which it eventually expels when a man ejaculates.
The prostate is located right below the bladder, and wraps around the urethra.
Its about 1 inch in diameter.
If this position isnt comfortable, you’ve got the option to try sitting up and bending over.
You should be able to feel a walnut-sized gland through the wall of the rectum.
Start exploring your prostate
I recommend exploring your prostate on your own first.
If you feel at all squeamish, you could always explore in the shower for easy clean-up.
Another option is to use a condom or glove on your finger.
Since the anus doesnt self-lubricate, youll need to use lube.
you might even look for silicone-based lubricants that are especially made for anal play.
Theres nothing like a hangnail poking your rectum to ruin the joys of prostate play.
Once youre feeling relaxed and excited, take one finger and very slowly insert it into your rectum.
Focus on breathing deeply and relaxing your butt muscles.
When you first start stimulating the prostate, you might feel like you better pee.
Thats normal, since the prostate is so close to the urethra and bladder.
Sometimes the brain interprets pressure on the prostate as pressure on the bladder.
A lot of men like combining prostate stimulation with penile stimulation.
The same basic set-up guidelines apply, like keeping nails trimmed and using lube.
Then you might try having your partner explore internally next.
Or they can finger your prostate while also giving you a handjob or blowjob at the same time.
Theres one golden rule for any toy that goes in your butt: verify it has a flared base!
This means that the base of the toy is wider than the part that youre inserting into your butt.
Your anal sphincters are quite strong, and can pull in toys that dont have this safety feature.
BothLELOandAneroshave great lines of prostate toys.
you might also use prostate stimulation to explore having orgasms independently from ejaculation.
I wrote a separate article about this techniquehere.
This can be an awful lot of fun, and a great reward for exploring your prostate.
