Fingering is one of the best ways to pleasure a female-bodied person.
Compared to oral sex or intercourse, its also relatively non-taxing for the giver.
Heres what it’s crucial that you know to finger someone with a vulva.
Attitude is everything when it comes to fingering.
Your partner may think of fingering as a lesser than activity.
Focus on staying relaxed and genuinely enjoying yourself.
Theyll notice it, I promise.
Be prepared
Wash your hands before touching their bare skin.
You dont want to initiate the risk of spreading germs to your partners body.
Its also important to have short, filed nails.
Sharp nails or jagged hangnails can really ruin the mood.
Its also good to have an idea of what youre going to be touching.
The term for the exterior portion of female genitals is the vulva.
The vulva has two sets of labiathe outer labia and inner labia.
The inner labia join near the top of the vulva.
The clitoris should be located around thereits a small nub of skin that can range in size.
Further down, youll find the entrance to the vagina.
This position is fantastic because the vulva should be right in front of you, within arms reach.
you’re free to see what youre doing, and give your partner focused stimulation.
you might easily swap between hands, if one arm starts to get a little fatigued.
you’re free to also stay in this position for a long time.
Spend tons of time kissing and playing with the rest of their body.
Grind your body against their crotch.
Take their pants off, but leave their underwear on.
Run your palm up and down their labia.
Finally, part the labia with one fingertip and continue that back and forth motion.
Use lube
I cant recommend lube highly enough.
Lube prevents any uncomfortable pulling or tugging of the skin, and also amplifies the sensation.
I think silicone-based lubricant feels best against the skin, especially for fingering.
I highly recommend investing in a nice bottle to keep in your bedside table.
Most people who have one love clitoral stimulation, and need it to reach orgasm.
Neither is better or worse; theyre simply personal preferences.
Its best to start with indirect stimulation.
Start off by slowly circling the clitoris without directly touching it.
Make your circles tighter and tighter, until you start grazing against the clitoris.
If they pull away or tells you to be softer, stick with the indirect stimulation.
Or try stroking a finger diagonally across it.
it’s possible for you to also take teasing breaks away from the clitoris.
Try dipping one or two fingers into the vagina.
This gives you both time to relax into the experience.
Its great to want to give your partner an orgasm, but dont pressure them to have one.
They can still enjoy the experience and feel a ton of pleasure without having an orgasm.
you might get this point across by telling them, Im just going to keep going.
You tell me whenever you want me to stop.
There are two ways to get feedbackverbal and non-verbal.
I think verbal is best, but I also know it can be challenging for a lot of people.
Instead, try two different techniques.
If youre in some sort of ongoing relationship, you could also ask for feedback at some other time.
If youre going for non-verbal feedback, pay attention to their body language.
If you werent touching the clitoris at the time, try touching it more directly.
If you were touching it at the time, switch to indirect.
