And now, you must get the most contrarian creature known to man into their car seat.

Its no secret tiny people aged 2 to 3 are stubborn.

And when you attempt to get them into a seatwith mandatory bucklestheir defiance can skyrocket.

Here are a few tips on how to strap them in without (as much of) a fight.

Make them think its their idea

(Results may vary.

They might just play you at your own game and say, Now we go poo-poo.

In which case, proceed to step two.)

Saying, I think I can get there faster than you!

can ignite their sense of play and give them the satisfaction of shouting, I win!

Asking them questions about inconsequential things like walking order, Do you want to go first, or second?

what theyd like to bring, Do you want this truck or that truck?

can make them feel like they are running the show.

Anything that gives them a sense of purpose and contribution can lead to improved cooperation.

Empathize

Take a moment to empathize with their situation.

Relate to their emotions.

Say something like, I know you dont want to get in your seat.

I can see youre mad.

Let that genuine compassion sink in.

Then follow-up with, But if we dont get in our seats, we cant go anywhere fun.

Saying its not you making the decision can help lower their hackles.

can help them defer blameuntil tomorrow, at least.

Take a literal step back.

Mutter swears under your breath if you have to.

But as soon as you blow a gasket, you will be back to square one.

Summon all your self-control and say, We cant go anywhere until youre in your seat.

Some days, this will lead to a literal stand off.

And you both wait to see who breaks first.

This is what smartphones were made for.

If you dont get in your seat, Im going to put you in your seat.

Do you want to do it yourself, or do you want me to do it?

Alternately, you’ve got the option to skip all this and use the Almighty Snack.

Let them take anything you would not ordinarily give them at 8:30 in the morning and dig in.

Like a grown adult sneaking candy into the movie theater, they will feel victorious.

And filled with this smug joy, they will likely deign to grant your car seat request.