Hand jobs dont get the respect they deserve.
Theyre an activity that many people (especially heterosexual people) havent done since they were teenagers.
Heres everything you gotta know to give a fantastic hand job.
Enthusiastic consent is key.
Some guys just dont like hand jobs, or wont want one in that particular moment.
Thats OK.
Enthusiasm is essential on the givers end too.
Enthusiasm is so crucial to great sex.
If youve never given your partner a hand job before, play that up.
Let him know youre excited to try something new, and to give his penis some focused attention.
Compliment the size and shape of his penis.
Get Prepared
Wash your hands and see to it your nails are short and smooth.
Lets do a quick anatomy refresher.
The shaft is the majority of the penis.
Its capped off by the head of the penis, which typically looks like a mushroom cap.
The head will be exposed if hes circumcised, and covered with a foreskin if hes not.
On the underside of his penis is his frenulum.
It looks like a little seam, and is typically ultra-sensitive.
At the base of his penis are his testicles.
The strip of skin between his testicles and anus is called the perineum.
Get into Position
Have him lie flat on his back.
Sit between his legs, facing his head.
it’s possible for you to sit cross-legged, or stretch your legs out on top of his.
Use Lube
Lube is absolutely essential for a great hand job.
The penis doesnt self-lubricate, you oughta use lube to ensure that things go smoothly.
They also feel fantastic against the skin.
This advice works for a hand job as well.
Tell him, I want to see what you do when you touch yourself.
Then pay attention to his grip, technique, and speed.
Its incredibly erotic to watch.
In particular, I think its helpful to get a sense of how tightly he squeezes his penis.
If you dont have a penis yourself, you might be nervous about using too much pressure.
But the most common complaint I hear from men is that their partners dont use a firm enough grip.
Ask him to stop you until you get to the pressure that feels best for him.
Focus a bit of extra attention on the sensitive head.
Once you get comfortable, you’ve got the option to try using two hands.
you could place one fist on top of the other, and move them up and down in unison.
Or try interlacing your fingers, and wrapping both hands around his penis.
As soon as you hit the base, repeat the movement with your other hand.
Release at the base, so your hands keep moving in one direction only.
Keep doing this over and over again.
It will feel like hes endlessly penetrating your hands.
The testicles are a great place to stimulate.
Be more delicate with his testicles than you are with his shaft.
Hold both of his testicles in your hand, and gently squeeze or tug on them.
you’re free to also play with his perineum and his anus.
Use a lubed-up knuckle to apply a good amount of pressure to the perineum.
A kneading motion can work well.
Communicating during a hand job can be really hotand very helpful!
