Its official: squirting has become a thing.

Heres what it’s crucial that you know to learn how to squirt or to make your partner squirt.

What Is Squirting, Anyways?

Squirting refers to the expulsion of fluid out of a womans urethra during orgasm.

Thats the only concrete thing we currently know about it (besides the fact that it feels awesome).

Sadly, there arent a ton of research dollars dedicated to the science of squirting.

Scientists out there, get on this!

If you want to learn how to squirt, youll need to enlist the help of yourG-spot.

The biggest squirting mystery is the identity of the thin, milky fluid that gets released.

No one really knows exactly what it is.

Other researchers say the fluid is generated from theSkenes glands, which is the female equivalent of theprostate.

The bottom line is: we dont really know what its made of, butdoes it really matter?

As long as the woman is enjoying herself, who the hell cares whats coming out of her body?

Theres also debate over whether or not all women are capable of squirting.

Is squirting like riding a bike, where any able-bodied person can learn with practice?

This is a tough question to answer.

you’re free to find your PC muscles the next time youre urinating.

Cut off your flow before your bladder is empty.

Youll probably feel a pulling up sensation.

Once youre off the pot,try pulling these muscles up and gently releasing them.

Repeat that 30 times daily.

Also: any time youre going to give a shot to squirt, pee immediately beforehand.

The throw in of stimulation you gotta squirt often creates a sensation of having to urinate.

If youre confident that your bladder is empty, youll be able to relax and enjoy the sensation more.

If youre practicing solo, you could always hang out in the bathtub.

But again, theres no reason to be ashamed!

Your next step is to find your G-spot.

The G-spot is located just a few inches from the vaginal wall.

you could use your fingers to locate it.

Youre looking for a spongy bundle of tissue thats roughly the side of a quarter.

If you press down on it, you should feel like you have to pee.

If youre on your own, youre probably going to want to use a toy.

Its pretty hard to reach the anterior wall of your own vagina with your fingers.

Even if youre flexible, your arm is going to be on fire trying to get enough pressure going.

TheNjoy Pure Wandismy hands-down favorite recommendation.

you’re free to also check out theLELO Mona IIif you want some vibration with your stimulation.

Your partner should be in a position that gives them good leverage and is comfortable.

Alternatively, they can use a toy on you.

Again, focus on small, tight movements with a lot of pressure.

Anddont forget the lube!

You want to give yourself about 20-30 minutes to reach orgasm.

Remember, feeling the urge to pee is normal.

Bearing down is important because it will help the fluid actually release from the urethra.

These steps might sound a little complex, but it will feel more natural when youre doing it.

It sounds cliche, but have a go at relax and enjoy yourself, regardless of what happens!

You have to be relaxed so that release.

Focus on the pleasure, ladies!

Similarly, dont put pressure on your partner to squirt.

yo dont make your partners involuntary bodily functions serve as an indicator of your superiority.

All together now: focus on the pleasure!

This post originally stated that urine is sterile, and was updated to reflect that it is indeed not.

Vanessa Marin is a licensed psychotherapist (#78931) specializing in sex therapy.

Its her mission to take the intimidation out of sex therapy and bring the fun back into the bedroom.

Have questions about sex?

you’re free to reach her at[email protected], or at VMTherapy.com.

Title illustration by Jim Cooke.