First, its important to remember this is not unusual.
Some of these reasons include:
You have exhausted topics.
One or both of you are busy.
You have different conversation styles.
As adults, this might play out in different ways.
Sometimes people become too comfortable in relationships and stop putting in the work thats needed.
You are living different lives.
You arent sharing time, experiences, or interests.
There is unresolved conflict.
Instead of repeating the same things to each other, you may choose to keep quiet.
Starting with focusing on yourself is important because it puts you in a position to be proactive.
We have more capacity to change if we choose to do so on our own.
Am I listening intently to my partner in a way that allows them to want to speak?
Am I willing to share my thoughts with my partner?
For instance, after asking how their day was, venture to ask follow-up questions.
Ask specific questions about what they really did, what they enjoyed, or what frustrated them.
Its important to try and focus on meaningful questions here that may be more feelings-based.
Your conversations just need to shift from fresh to in depth.
That will help you feel more bonded again by sparking conversations and creating memories.
Bonus points if you plan on doing a new activity neither of you have done before.
give a shot to find a balance and be willing to compromise with each other.
If its a particularly difficult topic, work on sharing your insights gently and lead with empathy.
Consider couples therapy
There is no shame in seeking therapy.
Understanding why and how you stopped talking as a couple is the first step to connecting again.
Sometimes the first conversation might just beacknowledgingthe lack of conversation.
The desire for you to reconnect on a deeper level might just be the best thing to talk about.
Rebuilding relationships takes time; dont be discouraged if progress isnt immediate.
The most important thing is recognizing there is a problem.
