It started in my home toward the end of last school year.
My son is not getting a smartphone this year.
Hes now old enough that we drop him off for soccer practice, rather than hang around to watch/supervise.
Hes getting closer to walking to a couple of friends houses on his own.
So Ive started thinking more about how Ill know when the time is right.
He really wants to know how much phoneless time is still stretching out into his future.
But, as I tell him, its less about age and more about readiness.
Are they still leaving water bottles and umbrellas and gloves behind at school twice a week?
Are they sneaking in screen time when theyre supposed to be doing homework?
Is it still a battle to turn off the TV to come to the dinner table?
Then you probably dont want to add another rig into the mix.
Or are you constantly wonderingwhat the hell they were thinking?
The answer will tell you a lot about their smartphone readiness.
Dont take this on until you are ready.
Setting boundaries with peers is something they can work on, with parents help.
Look for signs of empathy in their relationships.
Does your child seem to understand the effect of their words on others?
Do they apologize when they hurt someones feelings?
Self-reflection and attempting to make things right are good signs that kids can repair their mistakes.
Are YOU ready for it?
Great, youve made the decision!
Theyre ready for the smartphone!
That would be nice, but nope.
Heitner explains inthe Post:
Its important to establish ground rules and work with your child.
Talk about and consider each app before downloading it, and discuss how to mindfully add contacts.
Whos on the approved list for texting?
Peers, family members, extended familyit helps to clearly define some guidelines.
And set expectations about access.
Will this unit live in your childs room overnight, for example?
These are discussions to have before the phone is handed over.
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