Up until a few years ago, Abigail Reeds politics were in line with those of her parents.
She understood their point of view, and she followed it.
She started having conversations with people with different ideas and doing her own research.
What resulted was a jump to the other side of the ideological aisle.
A political disconnect has put an end to many Facebook friendships, especially in recent years.
But it doesnt have to ruin family relationshipsif everyone works at treating each other with respect.
Disagreeing and searching are all a part of maturing.
The good news is, its only a slam if you choose to see it that way.
Its easy to think your kids are doing this just not to be you, Herndon says.
Its important to respect the experience and voices of young people, Moorman says.
You should not discriminate against them just because of their age.
Set some boundaries
Opening a dialogue is important, but setting some boundaries is even more so.
If you are open, evolved and want to discuss, lets set boundaries, Herndon says.
Maybe you cant talk about politics at all, and maybe you only talk about [lighter matters].
Whatever boundaries you set, the key is recognizing your stopping points and your comfort levels for engagement.
And venture to avoid becoming defensive.
When someone younger than you calls you out, it can elicit a defensive response, Moorman says.
Is it because you dont think your child has all the facts?
Is it because you struggle being around people who dont believe the same things as you?
Or are you simply settled into your perspective?
The answer may surprise you, and it may cause you to rethink your next move.
Others in your social circle may be managing the same challenges right now.
Activate your data pipe, Herndon suggests.
For now, Abigail Reed and her family have agreed to not talk about politics while at home.
I am interested in seeing other peoples views, Reed says.
But it leads to a lot of I am right and you are wrong.
I think in the long run, just not talking to my parents about politics is better.
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