Who do you ask and whats the best way to reach out?

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(Or, how much notice do it’s crucial that you give your current employer?)

For some jobs, Can we get you set up for your physical and drug screen?

Will you like provide us with a list of professional references we may contact?

Dont get caught in scramble mode at this stage of the game.

Your prompt response and the quality of your references can take you the distance if you play this right.

Who Should I List (or Not List) as a Reference?

Never (ever) include relatives, unless you happen to work directly for or with one.

Recruiters are not stupid.

Treat them so at your own peril.

Should They Be on My Resume?

Not only do you not need to list out your references, you shouldnt.

No need to hand over all of this information before you captivate him or her.

Likewise, no need to write out References available upon request.

This is a given.

When the hiring manager want them, he or she will ask for them.

100% of the time.

What If Im a Covert Job Seeker?

This can be a tricky one.

I cant answer this one definitively because every situation is different, and the stakes can be quite high.

Chances are, you arent going to be able to use your current manager as a reference.

Certainly, consider enlisting former managers.

How Should I Ask?

And along those lines, do this over the phone if possible.

Youll get a much better idea of how excited (or unexcited) this person is to help you.

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Dont assume your past co-worker or boss is going to sing your praises.

Dont list anyone who responds with the awkward pause or waffle.

Lukewarm references can sink you in the home stretch.

Is There Anything I Should Provide My References With?

Dont list people without giving them any indication that youve used them as a reference for this next opportunity.

Thats rude, and it may annoy them to the point of not giving you a glowing review.

What Do I Do After They Are Contacted?

What do you do?

This one is easythank him or her, and offer to return the favor if its ever needed.

And, when you land that job?

Get it right, take it the distance, and enjoy that amazing new gig.

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