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Hi Patrick,

I got married back in February, it was just a small ceremony with our parents.

It was basically a picnic in a county park pavilion and we invited about 400 guests to celebrate.

We did send real, snail-mail invitations and asked for RSVP; we also said that gifts were unnecessary.

My question comes regarding the invitees that didnt follow proper RSVP etiquette.

a month after the RSVP deadline.

Another group of people RSVPed that they were coming and just no-showed to the reception.

No message, no excuse regardless of lameness, nothing.

Obviously, this isnt healthy.

Should I just ghost them and write them off from my life?

Or should I venture to let it go and never mention it unless they volunteer something?

Both groups, the non-responders and the no-shows, did things that are not cool.

Still, its a rude way to say it even if its fairly common.

The real slight here is the people that said they would come and didnt show up.

Youre expecting to celebrate a huge moment in your life with them and theyre off camping instead?

Thats outrageous, and extremely insulting!

Also, how is camping better than a wedding?

(Its not.)

So Nukey, I think it all comes down to whatyouwant out of all this.

You have every right to.

A simple, Hey!

We missed you at our wedding!

Thought you were going to party with us.

You might get an apology and you might not, so be ready for that.

If they dont respond at all, ditch em.

They werent that good of friends to begin with.

I mean, you had already gotten married, so this wasnt the real wedding.

Shit man, they may have even felt a little jilted that you had this for everyone else shindig.

Like you wanted to have your wedding cake and eat it too.

Quickies

Because I just dont have time for all of you…

Feeling Trappedsays:

Im a senior in high school and I am definitely going to college.

But the question is where because I struggle with hyper-vigilance, anxiety, and a social phobia.

It gives me so much worry to think about this.

If you have the opportunity, get out of there and go see the world.

Dont let them keep you from being the person you want to be.

I sent him an apology, he read it and didnt respond.

Is there anything more I can do, or should I just give up?

Youve done all you might.

If hes still interested, hell respond.

Its time to move on.

So what should I do?

Should I tell her how I feel?

I know you want to tell her that you love her, but the point is probably moot.