Some are emotional affairs and, unlike their physical counterparts, they can be trickier to identify.
Are you getting way too personal with a colleague?
Are you making up excuses to see your kids cute teacher?
Heres how to identify if youre in one and what you’re free to do about it.
How have things been for you and your primary partner lately?
Are you feeling content and happy in your relationship?
My mother-in-law had moved in and she and my husband have drinking problems.
I began feeling like a third wheel in my own home.
All of my decisions were constantly under scrutiny.
I was uncomfortable, insecure, and lonely.
I didnt talk to my husband about any of it.
I thought hed realize how miserable I was.
Think about how you feel when this persons name pops up on your phone or when you see them.
If you feel telltale crush symptoms, like butterflies in your stomach, be honest with yourself.
There are romantic undertones.
Own up to it.
Crushes are normal and not that big of a deal.
A pretty big red flag is if youre discussing extremely personal or sexual topics with this other person.
That was the first sign DJ had that she was embarking on an emotional affair.
Things heated up from there and got a little racy for a bit, she admitted.
An emotional affair, like any affair, isntallabout sexual gratification, though.
We also had amazing conversations, said DJ.
An emotional affair can feel even more intimate than a physical one.
The longer it goes on, the worse you could feel, and the more hurtful it could be.
To be honest, I still miss those conversations.
Dont beat yourself up for it; you obviously needed something you werent getting.
My husband and I really had to learn how to communicate and make our needs heard.
And sometimes your relationship wont work and thats okay, too.
I dont think one person is supposed to meet all your needs, DJ said.
