How to Recover From a Breakup

But your life isnt over.

The world isnt ending.

Of course, you might notfeelany optimism or realism for a whileand its fine to really feel these lows.

Heres some expert advice on what relationship recovery looks like.

What to expect during and after a breakup

Some breakups are totally clean breaks.

Other times, breakups are kind of protracted.

Those little breakups can also feel monumentally sad, even if you suspect theyre not permanent.

Breakups might not be a severance, either.

None of these scenarios is fun.

Each can be fraught in its own special way.

All of that is normal.

Feelings like shock or denial, sadness, anger, bargaining, depression, rebuilding, and then hope.

You might be someone who relies heavily on friends.

You just need to set boundaries so you dont become consumed by negativity.

She suggested setting a timeframe for crying each day, then shaking yourself off and moving forward.

One option is using this breakup as a launching pad for a better part of your life.

Try reading a book or sending an email to a prospective contact for your career.

Set yourself up for success, to the extent that it’s possible for you to.

Focus on yourself, saidChristina Cipriani, a certified relationship coach.

Dont blame yourself for this, either.

Relationships are the responsibility of both parties involved and sometimes they just dont work out.

There is nothing good that will come from you getting down on yourself.

That is not the problem.

You are not the problem.

You are worthy of love and respect, and you might find it elsewhere when youre ready.

Finally, remember that everyone feels lonely sometimes.

Youre not alone in being upset about being, well, alone.

Theres a silver lining for you.

Be wary of jumping into arebound relationship.

Zeto added that its important to give yourself time and space to heal before you get into another relationship.

Zeto said that has less to do with a definitive timeline and more to do with how youre feeling.

She suggested imagining what would happen if you texted your ex a simple hey.

Would we be okay with them not answering back to our text?

I think thats a good indicator whether or not theres still ego in the past relationship.

Another relationship can be tricky at first, but dont feel discouraged.

Its important you get right with yourself before endeavoring to find someone new.

Everyones breakup experience is different.

Thats all okay, she said.

The most important thing to consider is what you may need at this moment.