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This advice isnt sugar-coatedin fact, its sugar-free, and may even be a little bitter.

Welcome to Tough Love.

This week we have a woman whose lies to an online date quickly got away from her.

I simply want to give you the tools you should probably enrich your damn lives.

If for whatever reason you dont like my advice, feel free tofile a formal complaint here.

Now then, lets get on with it.

Recently, I was in another city for work, so I changed my OkCupid profile to that location.

I was messaged by a guy well call Sam, and we started talking.

Within 24 hours, we had phone numbers, real names, FB profiles, etc.

And at some point, naturally, he asked what part of the city I was in.

Instead of just saying Oh, sorry.

Just in town for work.

I straight up lied and named an area in the city… And Sam, sweet Sam…

He just took it all for face value.

We didnt sleep together, he didnt try and kiss me, or even hold my hand.

So we had a squabble in front of the subway station.

His face went red and he said I think Im going to throw up.

I tried to hug him, to reassure him, and he asked me to not touch him.

Then he said get home safe and disappeared into the subway tunnel.

I went back to my hotel, cried, and then checked out the next morning.

A few days later, I emailed him the truth.

I wasnt expecting much of a response, but the one I got killed me.

He said he does not want to continue our conversations and to not contact him ever again.

So, my question is how long do I pursue this?

How can I tell him that this was just a stupid mistake?

The fact that I havent been blocked yet gives me hope that he might come around.

Sincerely,

Heartbroken in Seattle

Hey Heartbroken in Seattle:

Liar, liar, pants on fire.

I think youre done here, kiddo.

Like, thats some sociopath shit right there.

Youre completely disregarding other peoples feelings to get what you want.That should bother you.

Go sit in the corner and think about what you did.

Do you get him on the hook and then finally tell him the truth when hes in too deep?

Not creepy at all!

Seriously, Heartbroken, did you think this through?

But you lied to this dudes facefor three weeks straight!

You could have been honest with him at any time.

And you threw it in his face, Heartbroken.

You know, now that I think of it, maybe Sam got wise when you came to visit.

Maybe thats why he didnt seem that into you, or why your second date never happened.

Maybe he finally did his due diligence and looked you up.

Perhaps he already gave you a chance to come clean.

If he doesnt want you to contact him, dont.

Do not pursue this.

You dont need to tell him that this was a stupid mistakehe knows, thats why hes moving on.

And dont tell him that youre not his ex, becauseat best, thats what you are now.

Leave Sweet Sam alone.

Maybe hell get over it and reach out to you again someday… but I doubt it.