Lets unlock our phones and discuss textual stimulation out in the open.
First of all, sexting is totally normal.
Maybeyoudont do it, but youd be in the minority.
In 2015, theL.A.
Timesclaimedthat 88 percent of U.S. residents had engaged in sexting and 96 percent endorsed it.
By now, Im going to assume everyone has abandoned their qualms.
But what has inspired those qualms?
Only about 15 percent do, as compared 41 percent of teens who are just having intercourse.
The anxiety is a bit disproportional to the problem.
There is also a lot of worry regarding your digital information getting away from you.
Thats not an unreasonable fear.
Finally, much has been written about the cursed unsolicited dick pic.
Is this dick pic welcome?
If its solicited, its part of sexting.
Did that help set your mind at ease?
Now to get to the other question many have about sexting: Am I doing it right?
Whereas someone I know, idk, it could somehow be seen by mutual acquaintances where its less anonymous.
Only like one nude for a cis guy Im trying to seduce because too much and they lose interest.
(Read: they masturbate and wander off).
A guy told me that sexting is basically like choose your own adventure pornography.
But here are some things people were adamant about:
Consent before sending.
And then the dirtiest shit imaginable.
I do have a no dick pic rule prior to seeing your dick in real life.
That was basically it.
Consent is sexy, even via text.
Tone
If youre on Tinder looking for a sext partner, directness about this is usually best.
If when youve actually met and are dating someone that things get trickier.
If youve not yet engaged in sexual contact, hold off.
Someone who hasnt even kissed you yet probably doesnt want your first experience together to come via iPhone messenger.
Dont feel embarrassed or silly or self-consciousness.
And thats totally okay.
Ive never thought about learning and find text messaging in general to be a chore.
Sexting shouldnt feel like a chore and it shouldnt make you uncomfortable.
Though that does sound sort of erotic …
Aimee Lutkin is a freelance writer whoblogs a lot about dating.
She is currently traveling the country and going on a date in every city she visits.
