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He keeps coming up to me during lunch breaks wanting to talk European politics.
I know all of these things, probably better than him.
Cheers,
Going Deaf
Hey Going Deaf:
The first thing you better do is stop responding to him.
You probably do know more than this guy, but that does not matter to him in the slightest.
Hes seeking self-affirmation by spouting off his own political knowledge and garbage opinions.
But not responding wont fix the problem entirely, G-Dizzle.
Its just to keep from encouraging the bastard.
Clearly your colleagues arent going to save you, and frankly, I wouldnt dive on that grenade either.
So, to stop it for good,youllneed to take action.
Then listen to himwithoutengaging or interrupting.
Hes more likely to stop because you gave him a reasonable expectation at the beginning of the conversation.
He started talking knowing you could only spare five minutes, and thats what he got.
Maybe we can grab a coffee and discuss it another time?
Then, heres the kicker,dont follow through.
Keep putting it off and rescheduling, while being stern about not discussing it at work.
Hopefully, hell take the hint.
Do it enough times and he might finally realize you dont want to talk to him anymore.
Maybe hell latch onto some other poor sap!
Hopefully one of those solutions works for you, Going Deaf.
If not, you have to put on your big boy pants and stand up for your own well-being.
I guess you might say it nicer, though, if you want.
Something like, Im sorry, I dont want to discuss this stuff with you anymore.
Id appreciate it if you kept these things to yourself.
Itwillbe uncomfortable, sorry.
One awkward, uncomfortable confrontation, or a lifetime of listening to his bullshit?
My relationships are ending due to this.
c’mon advise me.
Hey MP:
First, let me say that your virginity isyours.
If you dont want to lose it, you dont have toever.
These people ending relationships with you because youre not ready arent right for you.
You need someone who understands your feelings and is willing to wait.
That said, theres a difference between not feeling ready and just being afraid of the process itself.
If its the latter, learn about sex and arm yourself with some knowledge.
But if youre not ready, MP, youre not ready.
Dont rush something just because some jerks are mad you wont put out.
