How to Squirt (or at Least Try)

When you google squirting, the results are a mixed bag.

And, of course, there is pornso much porn.

This punch in of orgasm includes a rapid ejection of urine from the bladder.

What is squirting?

Its not urine, but its also not the fluid that gets released when a vagina lubricates itself.

Still, he added, what the fluid is, exactly, is still really unknown.

That might not be comforting to hear if youre earnestly endeavoring to squirt.

Lachman says, though, that the focus should be less onhowto squirt and more on why youwantto.

Should I be squirting?

As a result, we turn to porn or prioritize the performance of sex above any pleasurable experience.

Penetrating partners can feel a sense of accomplishment when theyseetheir partner orgasm.

This puts pressure on both parties and takes the focus away from enjoyment and intimacy.

At best, its a distraction; at worst, its an anxiety-inducing nightmare.

Of course, thats easier said than done.

He sees clients who share that their boyfriend or partner is requesting that they squirt.

One also might feel pressure to compete with porn, or past partners whodosquirt.

Moreover, Cooper even said that those whodosquirt dont always love it.

All this hype for something that many squirters wish they werent even able to do.

Relaxing under pressure to perform is hard, which is the big paradox here.

Be open with your partner about this endeavor.

Practice makes perfect, and at least this can be fun to practice, right?

There is a whole world of fun stuff to do in the bedroom.

This is just one thing.

So the conversation would be, Lets not focus on trying to reach a goal.

Lets not even focus on trying to attain an orgasm.

Lets just focus on feeling good.

If your partner is making you feel bad about not squirting, be honest with them.

If they keep pressuring or disparaging you, it’s possible for you to leave.

You dont have to perform for anyone or force yourself to be anything youre not.

And you know what?