We all have thoughts and feelings about how our bodies look and fit into the world.

Dacy Gillespie, an anti-diet and weight inclusive personal stylist.

Ginny Jones, a coach who specializes in helping parents with mental health challenges and eating disorder recovery.

Heres what they had to say about internalized weight stigma, negative body image, and self-compassion.

Its not surprising that you are acutely aware of how your body differs from the ideal.

thin and/or muscular)," Apostol said.

“Basically, the world tells you that you dont fit in, and you believe it.

Youre being gaslit by diet culture.

Someone who has internalized weight stigma believes they must control or change their body to achieve basic human worthiness.

All of us, regardless of our weight, are equally worthy and wonderful.

The option of seeing body diversity in media is relatively new, so take advantage of it.

For too long, weve only seen images of thin women in media.

Our eye has been trained to only see those bodies as attractive, Gillespie said.

It will take time for your eye to adjust.

Photos capture one small second and angle.

They dont capture your life and your energy, Gillespie said.

(My) best example of this: I was just in Costa Rica last week.

None of the photos I took of the amazing sunsets there captured the actual beauty of them.

It didnt happen overnight.

I know my worth is not based on my weight.

Repeating this hundreds of times is how I shifted from internalized weight stigma to body respect, she said.

(Usually its not about my body, but that Ill be judged by someone else.

So Im actually upset about how someone feels about fat people, Apostol said.)

How can I take care of myself right now?

Whats possible in this moment?

What would I like to do about the situation?

Changing how you feel and think about your body is not going to happen overnight.

We need to recognize that for over 100 years, thin bodies have been held up as the ideal.

It was taught to our mothers and our mothers mothers, and on and on.

There are billion dollar businesses selling us the idea that we should be constantly striving to make ourselves smaller.

Of course you arent there yet!