In other words, if you want to be a fat smoker, youd better have atonof friends.
Not only is friendlessness leading to adverse health condition, its turning us into loners and weirdoes.
Why are we so lonely?
The surgeon generals report paints a dark picture of an increasingly isolated populace.
In 2018, just 16% of Americans said they felt very attached to their local community.
In 2003, the average amount of time spent with friends socially was around 60 minutes a day.
In 2020 it was 20 minutes.
Thats 20 additionalhours per monthspent alone instead of with friends.
The trend is seen across all age groups, but its especially pronounced among young people.
As youd probably guess, a primary driver of social isolation is technology.
Ive broken out what I consider the most actionable and relevant tips below.
Educate yourself: The connection between mental and physical health and connectedness is real.
Its supported by evidence and it affects everyone.
Understanding and taking this seriously is a great first step to doing something about it.
Start by readingthe surgeon generals report.
Its a fascinating (if bleak) document that is backed up by scientific research.
Your tax dollars paid for it, so take advantage.
Put your phone down: Dont look at your phone while youre talking to someone.
Even if its just because they eat different food and/or have charming accents.
Be a joiner: Im committed to actually following these steps, but this one will be hard.
Cut down on things that disconnect you: Technology can be insidious.
You might be surprised at how many people are feeling the same.
About half of Americans report feeling lonely.
What would it look like to treat others with respect?
How can I be of service?
How can I reflect my concern for and commitment to others?
