Youre more likely to see them doing wellor pretending toand that can hurt.
So, its time to stop creeping on your ex.
Here are a few things to try.
Youre making excuses to put off cutting them out of your life.
In the immortal words ofReal Housewives of Atlantas Cynthia Bailey, Delete.
Get them off of your social feeds.
Of course, this most basic step is not a guarantee you wont go looking for their profile again.
She cited a TikTok trend in which creators admit to doing just that, among other toxic post-breakup behaviors.
You broke up for a reason.
There were problems in the relationship.
You gave them enough of your time and energy.
I felt like looking at his socials filled the void of texting him, she said.
I also was worried Id see photos of him with other girls.
She said that was definitely helpful.
You have to decide you want to stop talking to the person yourself.
You have to say, Im going to do what Im going to do to finally feel better.
Make a decision, and hold yourself accountable
Breaking any habit requires self-determination.
You have to make the decision to stop.
Recognize its not good for you to focus on that other person instead of yourself.
You broke up for a reason.
There were problems in the relationship.
You gave them enough of your time and energy.
The moment has come for you to stop heaping your attention on them and turn it inward instead.
You have to decide you want to stop talking to the person yourself.
If youre really over them, then youll block them.
Dont beat yourself up
But what about when yourenotreally over themnot yet, anyway?
Give yourself some grace.
If you look at their Insta, even after a streak of not peeking, dont feel too bad.
Or, as Weekman suggested, use the icky feeling as a barrier against doing it again.
So yes, admit you messed up, but dont dwell on it.
Everyone creeps on their exes.
What are you waiting for?
