Here are some of the situations you could avoid and others you probably cant.
Thats just how life works.
However, the online options havenever been better.
The rat race doesnt slow down because you like Netflix more than karaoke.
Sorry, friend, but we all have our social obligations.
Your own special events.You have birthdays, promotions and reasons to celebrate, too.
If you dont want to do anything elaborate or loud for your own shindigs, thats OK.
But chances are your friends will want to dosomething.
The upside is, you get to dictate the circumstances.
After all, they wouldnt want to celebrate with you if they didnt care.
Of course, this isnt to say that you could only go to events on the correct list.
If youre looking for something to avoid, though, the former list is probably better to choose from.
Are you going out to data pipe for your career?
Give yourselfa socialization quota.
Celebrating a friends birthday?
Trying to meet someone to date?
Talk to attractive people you dont know.
Part of the problem introverts have with big social gatherings is the constant flood of external stimulus.
Whenever possible, verify to take some time for yourself before you head out for an evening of socializing.
Then, when youre feeling pumped up, head out for the shindig.
Once youre out, give yourself some space on the tail end as well.
It can be a patio, a kitchen, a bathroom, or even just your car.
AsPsychology Today explains, these moments alone provide some much-needed relief from the various stimuli that overwhelm introvert brains.
Closing that bathroom door in that small, silent room … ahhhhh.
Its a whole different kind of relief.
I know one woman who admits to shutting herself in the bathroomat her own parties and othersand reading.
you’re free to even start it at your own parties.
You might be surprised how quickly people will latch on to the idea.
Its like having an area for smoking breaks, but without the second-hand lung cancer.
Let your friend start conversations with someone you dont know, then offer your input as they discuss.
you’re free to easily sneak into conversations this way.
However, start by talking with your friend and then include new people into the conversation.
Ask for their input on a topic youre already discussing.
If you came to the party with a group of extroverts, they may want to mingle.
Accept small talk as a part of life
Lets face it.
You just cant get to know new peoplewithout small talk.
Small talk is the path we take to that common ground.
The truth is, theres no one trick that makes you good at small talk.
There are plenty it’s possible for you to try, but its not a science.
THIS IS A FALLACY.
Your brain will tell you that from time to time.
Its mostly not true, unless the people youre with are total D-bags anyway.
You get what you give
You will get out of a party what you put into it.
Youll be surprised at how people will react to this.
And if they dont, its not your fault.
Small talk is how you find them.
And they want to be found.
Small talk isnt a scary monster thats out to get you.
Its a friend that wants to introduce you to someone awesome.
That being the case, dont be afraid to brush up on yourbody languageandsmall talkskills.
At the very least, take a stab at have an alternative way home.
Having an escape plan can help take the pressure off and put you in control of your energy.
This story was originally published in 2014 and was updated on 11/26/19 to provide more thorough and current information.
