Talking dirty is hot in and of itself, and its also great for your sex life.
It helps you stay more present in the moment, and more tuned in to what youre experiencing.
It helps you develop more sexual self-confidence.
It helps your partner learn what you like, and lowers their performance anxiety.
Its also a low-stress way to play with fantasies.
Heres how to talk dirty for beginners.
Initiate
A lot of people get nervous about initiating dirty talk if theyve never done it before.
But it doesnt need to be that complicated.
you’re free to start with saying really simple phrases like, That feels so good.
My favorite recommendation is to do a post-sex recap session.
Tell them the details of what you really enjoyed.
You already know what happened, so youre just sharing your experience, not coming up with something new.
Theres no need to think about anything detailed or complex.
Just share whats going on for you.
Examples:
You feel so big inside of me.
That feels so good I can hardly stand it.
Give feedback
People tend to get nervous about feedback because they think they need to be givingdirections.
But feedback is another way of sharing what youre feeling in the moment.
Its just a bit more direct.
A little to the left.
Hold my hands over my head.
Take your clothes off.
Give compliments
Another simple form of dirty talk is to compliment your partner.
I cant stop staring at your ass.
You turn me on so much.
Reminisce
This is another great throw in of dirty talk for beginners.
Remember that time we… ?
Remember when we were in [fill in the blank]…?
Many couples find that just talking dirty about a fantasy is thrilling enough.
Im thinking about watching you go down on another woman.
What do you think it would be like if I tied you up and made you my slave?
That scene from the movie earlier was so hot.
I cant get it out of my head.
Roleplay
you’ve got the option to use dirty talk to try on a different persona.
Maybe you want to be bossier, or more submissive.
you might also use words or language that you wouldnt normally use.
Call me your slut.
Tease
you’re free to use dirty talk to taunt your partner.
Ive got a surprise in store for you tonight.
Im going to make you beg for it.
Im touching myself right now.
(This is good to send as a sext, when your partner isnt there.)
Share your status
A more utilitarian usage of dirty talk is to let your partner know your orgasmic status.
Dont stop doing that.
Im about to come.
That feels so good, I cant take it anymore.
I have to have you inside of me.
Theres nothing worse than being completely silent in the moment when your partner is talking dirty to you!
