Well, bud, you really did it this time.
You cheated on someone you care about and dont want to lose.
This wont be easy, but at least we can make it a littleeasier.
you should probably spend sufficient time thinking aboutwhyyou did it, enough that you understand.
Before you rush into telling your partner about your dalliance, verify you have the facts straight yourself.
What was your reasoning?
How have you been feeling in your primary relationship?
Look at the situation from your partners point of view.
You might see a one-night-stand or online chats as meaningless, but would they?
Just because an affair doesnt become physical doesnt mean its less important to disclose, warned Quinn.
Some people may actually find the emotional infidelity here harder to accept than a one-off drunken fling.
Then again, you should have thought of that sooner.
(Sorry, but truth hurts.)
Are you telling them out of guilt?
Are you telling them because you want a divorce?
Or are you telling because you want to work out your problems and save the marriage?
Can you guarantee the person you cheated with wont get jealous or righteous and tell on you?
Mistakes happen and I think that relationship couldve been salvaged if Id heard the news from him.
If youre hesitating here, ask yourself if you really want to save the relationship in the first place.
It is important to focus on the facts [and] be specific.
Dont give a shot to dance around the topic or lie.
Instead hold your hands up, be honest, apologize.
This discussion is about whatyoudid, not whatever your partner has or hasnt done.
Give them time to ask questions and be mad before you make them even more defensive.
After that initial conversation, feel out the best time to keep the dialogue going.
Get on the same page.
Tough it out!)
After some time has passed, why not set a few ground rules?
Ask if theyve ever wanted to cheat or break up, too.
Just take responsibility and hopefully the person will also want to work it out with you.
