How to Tell Your Partner You Want to Be Sexually Degraded

Everyone involved has to agree to itits called consent, and its pretty fundamental.

Heres how to do it.

This isnt the movies.

To find out what you might be into, think back on former encounters.

What were you hoping a partner would do that they didnt do?

What were you too shy to ask for?

Youdoknow something about them: Off the bat, you knowtheyreinto whatyoureinto.

Keeping that dialogue open makes it less shocking when theres something new that either of you want to explore.

What you might think is too degrading or embarrassing to ask for might not seem the same to them.

This is highly dependent on the parties involved.

And to be honest, they might be, but that doesnt have to be your problem.

Its better to know than always be left wondering what if.

The repression industrial complex is strong, Lil Government added.

With your partners, the fear may be rejection or being seen as weird or fucked up.

Start by treading lightly and leave lots of space for them to say no.

Dont repress any part of yourself out of fear that someone else might not accept it.

Life is too short for that and you always have other options.

Go ahead and ask

Just ask the other person.

you’re free to do it over dinner or maybe even after being intimate.

It can be as simple as, That was fun.

Hey, what if next time, we tried…

Try starting by putting the focus on them.

Ask, Whats something youve always wanted to do but havent gotten to try yet?

Remember its important for you both to express yourselves and help each other fulfill your desires.

Compromise works wonders, as does a willingness to work with them on their needs.

you’re gonna wanna give to get.

Lil Government said shes a big fan of just asking.

Start by treading lightly and leave lots of space for them to say no.

Again, life is not a movie.

You wont intuit your partners every need and desire.

Dont just talk about this stuff beforehand, but during any encounter, too.

If youre dating this person, it’s crucial that you be communicating abouteverything, not just intimacy.

If youre not dating them, communicating about intimacy is the bare minimum.

Beforehand and in the heat of the moment, people always have the right to say no.

You have the right to ask for what you want, too.

This is a back-and-forth, but the communication hasto be ongoing.