Having said that,turning someone downis never easy eitherespecially if youre caught off-guard.
Here are a few tips for letting people down easily when youre not feeling a love connection.
First, it’s crucial that you be honest with yourself.
If you already have a boyfriend or girlfriend, let the person know.
Its okay to simply say, No, thank you.
When it comes to turning someone down, being active is always better than being passive.
Give a definitive no so both of it’s possible for you to move on with your lives.
Remember, it takes a lot of courage to approach someone, especially in person.
Lastly, keep the situation to yourself.
If youre in a group situation or share the same friends, dont tell everyone what happened.
If youve turned someone down, they already feel rejected and dont need to add embarrassment to the list.
Here are some examples:
I dont see you that way, Im sorry.
Ive really enjoyed talking with you, but I dont feel a connection between us.
Im trying to do my own thing right now so Im not looking to date anyone.
I think youre great, but Im looking for something else right now.
Youre not bringing them down or putting yourself above them, youre just explaining your perspective.
Think of it as a pre-emptive its not you, its me speech.
Only this way, nobody is getting nearly as hurt.
Dont keep people on the hook.
Theres no need to call, text, or even be Facebook friends if thats not something you want.
If youre not into them,be respectfuland let them know its never going to happen.
Youll never have enough time!
Only write a kind note to someone who took his/her time to write you a real and authentic note.
Winks, pokes, and likes about your photos dont count.
Its a lazy approach so it doesnt deserve your time.
Im chatting to a couple of other people right now who seem to be more what Im looking for.
Best of luck with your search!
I dont want us to waste each others time.
Hope you find what youre looking for.
Updated 3/4/22 with new details.
