FOMOthefear of missing outisnt just the fear of not experiencing something.
Its the fear of not being invited.
Congrats to those with such willpower.
The rest of us have to trick our animal brains a little harder.
To discover the joy of missing outJOMOwe have to make three changes.
I didnt want to go home until Id had my requisite good time.
Sometimes the good time did eventually show up, but usually it didnt.
If anyone said oh no, dont leave already!
I took it as a sincere request, so I never left.
And then if anyone else tried to leave, I said the same thing.
(When we suffer from FOMO, we have a go at make other people feel FOMO.)
So if youve already opted into more than you should, nows the time to opt out.
Rip off the band-aid
Quitting hurts.
Getting from FOMO to JOMO usually means working through a little pain.
So he led a little countdown with our group.
And now, he said, we rip off the band-aid.
Dont expect missing out to be painless.
Instead treat that pain as a good pain, the kind that comes before relief.
Quit before youre fired
Theres a lot of advice about changing your perspective on missing out.
Thats pretty hard to do if you didntchooseto miss out.
You have todecidenot to go to the party.
You cant predict every party.
But you’ve got the option to think of any kind of event that you only regretfully attend.
And you’ve got the option to decide not to go next time, before youre even invited.
Ive kicked a few bad social obligations this way.
This is still a bit of a self-con.
You cant brainwash yourself into having no conflicted feelings.
Thats a way to avoid marketing FOMO too.
When you buy this years iPhone, make the decision that you wont buy next years.
Now youre the one in control,yourethe one deciding to miss out later.
You have to assess what you care about.We have advice on that.
While FOMO makes us overcommit, FOBO makes us undercommit.
Look at what deeper commitments youve avoided because youre afraid of missing out on the shallower ones.
Those are the things that put the joy in JOMO.
Tech exec Anil Dashwrote about these JOMO-worthy thingsback in 2012.
Skip the party and spend time with a couple of friends.
Something that makes it worth missing out.
