The teen years are widely known as the years that many parents dread.
After all, teens are moody.
Teens are annoyed at the way we just cant quite seem togetwhat theyre going through.
But one thing we may have forgotten is that teenagerswantto be understood.
Its also pretty damn enlightening.
Why act cool around your parents?
Question from u/DDodgeSilver:
I get the need to be cool, I was a teenager once, too.
But, why carry on with the act when its just you and your parents?
I did it, too…
I just dont know why.
Answer from u/Landeg:
Sincerity is vulnerable and teens already feel plenty vulnerable.
Also, if you drop the act around your parents, you are acknowledging that its an act.
Some kids are okay with that because theyre aware of social masking and code switching, consciously or otherwise.
Also depending on their age, kids are trying on personalities like trying on pants.
I remember cycling through some forced personality traits trying to discover myself as a tween.
Answer from u/homesickalienz:
Because when you are cool around your friends you feel great.
People comment on your outfits or perceived popularity.
And you want your parents to feel the same way about you as your friends do.
Why wont you shower?
Do you want to be the stinky kid?
This is how you get to be the stinky kid.
Maybe talk to your kid and double-check they arent taking on too much of a load?
Answer from u/AIDANboi321:
Wed love to shower, well just do it tomorrow.
What are the biggest pressures on you?
What are they up against?
What are the social pressures for todays kids?
Answer from u/essentially_infamous:
Still drugs.
Question from u/I_Heart_Squids:
How does one yeet?
Kobe for accuracy, Yeet for distance.
Why do you shut me out?
I just need a bit of help on the details.
Dont shut me out.
Answer from u/NatashaJaniphil:
About shutting you out… Then I feel my problems are stupid.
Show us that its not stupid, its fine, by telling us about your imperfect childhood/life.
About when I dont shut you out… (Sorry, this section is longer than the above.
I guess my problem is what happens
after
sharing.)
Also, what works for you does not work for me.
For example, my mother was very social and I am not.
I am extremely shy.
Thus, the way she can approach people and sort things out between friends wont work for me.
But
now
I realize you’re free to give me advice that works for me, too.
Sometimes, I just want you to listen, dont judge, dont give advice.
I know how to handle it.
I just want to vent.
Why do you keep smacking the doorframes?
Answer from u/Oroshi3965:
Were taller now and its something slightly fun we can do with ease.
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