I have used the term special needs freely and often throughout my life.
I have a brother with autism, and the phrase is pretty versatile and, I thought, inoffensive.
Which is to say, dont feel badly if youre not up on all the appropriate phrasing and terminology.
Its not about getting it perfectits abouttryingand being open to learning how to be better.
Instead of special needs, the style guide advises to cite the specific disability or disabilities in question.
The term functional needs is preferred when a term is required.
Some specifics
In general, the guide recommends person-first language.
Once commonly used in pop culture and general speech, midget is considered derogatory.
TheLittle People of Americasuggests the terms short stature, little person or someone with dwarfism.
When used in a non-medical way, however, dwarf is often considered offensive.
Avoid using differently abled.
Many find it condescending and offensive.
Instead, stick with person with a disability.
Instead, use simply someone who uses a wheelchair.
The World Federation of the Deaf adopted the official terms deaf and hard of hearing in 1991.
Some people who are deaf and identify with the deaf community prefer deaf to hard of hearing.
Meanwhile, others who dont have a cultural affiliation with the deaf community may prefer hard of hearing.
The Disability Style Guide also suggests capitalizing the D when referencing the Deaf community.
Use legally blind only when someone has nearly complete loss of sight and blind in other cases.
The general point
You may notice a trend here: If you dont know, just ask.
However, its worth a moment of discomfort to make another feel valued and heard.
If you cant ask the person directly, ask a caregiver.
This is by no means the only guide like this.
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