Have you been wondering why youre not getting any matches on Tinder or Bumble?
It might need an update.
A lot of people write the about them section like its a throwaway, or theyll change it later.
There are a lot of things people find surprisingly off-putting.
For example, Reddit useru/Troelskihas a bone to pick with everyone out there claiming to be fluent in sarcasm.
It gets back to the old adageshow, dont tell.
Heres what you may want to edit out.
Thats probably all people need to know about your taste.
Why waste precious words in your bio to say you likeThe Office?
Its a popular show.
Share something more personal to you, that gives people a better idea of who you are.
Avoid Cliches
Are you looking for a partner in crime?
Are you in love with this great city and all it has to offer?
Do you like fun?
Who freaking cares?!
If youre heterosexual, try switching your prefs and searching though your own gender.
Check what the competition is writing.
Itll give you an idea of what the people youre trying to meet are probably sick of reading.
But on the other hand, hes married now.
Maybe someone, or several someones, did you wrong.
Thats something to talk about with your therapistnot every person swiping in a ten-mile radius.
No one wants to meet somebody who already seems angry and suspicious.
Its a huge red flag.
If youre not enjoying yourself, or youre not ready to date, take a break.
Come back with a more hopeful viewpoint.
Also, know that anytime you write no drama, its interpreted as I will cause drama.
Shame
Memes
Why are you wasting one of your photos on a meme?
For example: it cant be overstated how many people post pictures of themselves holding a dead fish.
For me, personally, this is unattractive.
I wonder how delusional they must be to think I know a damn thing about being a Capricorn.
Again, theres someone out there who will, and they love Capricorns, too.
But do you really care about fishing?
Do you care what someones rising sign is?
If not, you might be relegating yourself to only certain types of matches.
The best profile reflects your true interests, and shares something compelling about you in a brief sentence.
Have a friend read your bio and tell you how youre coming off.
Does it sound like you?
The best parts of you?
You could even ask a stranger to take a gander, and ask what their impression is.
Perhaps a cute stranger at a bar.
Who knows: you could end up deleting the whole app by the end of the night.
Aimee Lutkin is a freelance writer whoblogs a lot about dating.
She is currently traveling the country and going on a date in every city she visits.
