Youve got problems, Ive got advice.
This advice isnt sugar-coatedin fact, its sugar-free, and may even be a little bitter.
Welcome to Tough Love.
This week we have a woman who isnt sure if she should leave her physically abusive boyfriend.
I simply want to give you the tools you’re gonna wanna enrich your damn lives.
If for whatever reason you dont like my advice, feel free tofile a formal complaint here.
Now then, lets get on with it.
My boyfriend found out and laid his hands on me.
He apologized the same day, and we said we will never cheat or hurt each other again.
Then he ended up texting other girls and I caught him twice.
He let go of my mistake, but I cant let go of his because he did it twice.
It wasnt just a mistake, it was a choice.
Should I forgive him?
Is this all my fault?
Should I continue to move out?
Im not sure what to do.
I still want to be with him, but at the same time I dont.
Hurt Again
Hey Hurt Again:
Youve got this all wrong.
You think this is about not trusting each other and its not.
you oughta leave, Hurt Again.
Apologies or not, its done, its over, its time to move on.
Look, you probably shouldnt have been texting another guy behind your boyfriends back.
Is this your fault?
Maybe, maybe not.
But its not about that, Hurt.
Even if it was all your fault, that doesnt justify his reaction of getting physical with you.
Not even a little bit.
Imagine what he might do to you in the future if you really messed up.
Check out the bookWhy Does He Do That?
by Lundy Bancroftwhile youre at it.
Lastly, should you forgive him?
Sure, you’re free to if you want.
But heres the thing, Hurt:you dont need to stay with him to forgive him.
They arent the same thing.
Forgive the guy and move on with your life.
Go find yourself someone that will give you attention without giving you bruises.
Or better yet, take some time to recover and sort your life out.
