The new year is here, and with it came a big night for drinking.
It can be a fraught time if youre sober or trying to limit your alcohol intake.
But, according to theWashington Post, a full 30% of American adults dont drink at all.
Why not?
(Or the other crappy alternative: Lie.)
It could be for reasons of religion, health, addiction, or other personal reasons.
None of which are anyones business unless they volunteer to offer them up on their own.
Are you sure?
Come on, just one!?
Youre no fun.
Steer clear of this line, along with loosen up and youre missing out.
For all we know, they could have the most interesting background or best conversational skills in the room.
Are you pregnant?
Rule number one about womens bodies: Dont casually ask whats going on inside womens bodies.
Unless they are asupergood friend.
But an acquaintance or co-worker?
Thats a hard no.
Maybe sheis, but isnt ready to make it public yet.
Maybe shes trying, but struggling.
Maybe she isnt and doesnt ever want to become pregnant.
Sorry, how did we get here again?
Oh yeah, asking an inappropriate, invasive question because someone refuses a drink.
The decision not to drink is emphaticallynotcrazy or weird.
In fact, its often for mental or physical improvementtwo reasons that should be commended, not put down.
Do you mind if I drink?
I could never do that.
No one is suggesting you should.
Not drinking isnt a competition or moral superiority contest.
Theres no need to compare your decision to drink with their decision not to drink.
Can you drive me home?
Just because someone will be sober for the evening doesnt mean they want to become the default Uber driver.
Let them enjoy the evening without being asked for last-minute favors.
What should you say instead?
Social drinking is so commoneven expectedin American culture, it can be surprising when someone chooses not to imbibe.
And while we may wonder why, cornering them with judgmental or invasive statements is never appropriate.
Instead, if youre hosting, be sure to provide a selection of easily accessible non-alcoholic beverages.
When someone turns down a cocktail, simply say, Oh, can I get you something else?
Soda or seltzer, maybe?
And include them like you would any other guest at the party.
