Just because our kids grow up doesnt mean we stop being their parent.
But how much intervention is too much intervention when it comes to their romantic relationships?
My son has a history of ADHD, depression and anxiety.
Apparently his girlfriend also has some of these issues and takes medication.
She would also prefer to be here.
Case in point: She wanted him to go with her (i.e.
take her, because she doesnt drive) to her friends get-together in Philly this past weekend.
He really did not want to go and she kept trying to convince him.
If someone is hiding under a cover to avoid you, you should probably stop pushing them!
Its not the first time its happened.
Moderate eating is our thing, and he gained a bunch of weight when they were first together.
She comes here and is so picky, sometimes she orders something instead of eating what weve made.
Shes also not keen on leftovers, which is an ENTIRELY different story from a financial perspective.
- Speaking of financial perspectives, she likes to spend money and buy clothes, etc.
My son LOVES, absolutely ADORES, animals and cares deeply about people.
She cares about people, but not as much as he does.
We love and celebrate wildlife, all dogs, cats, any animals.
My son watches kitten rescue videos, for crying out loud!
She is only marginally interested.
Her mess must have been WAY offensive if even he commented on it!
- She snores and keeps him awake and hes always exhausted after she leaves here.
I would know, as I am divorced from his Dad for many similar reasons.
I think my ex is a great person, but we couldnt live together.
He is generally very receptive to my advice, and we have a great relationship.
However, Im not sure if Im advising too often or not.
I just dont want to see him get stuck in this relationship.
Theyre both studying to have careers in music.
But what Im reading is more about compatibility, and compatibility is subjective.
Their relationship is under too much of a microscope right now.
What if you tried to do the exact opposite?
Turn on some music and get started on dinner or take a relaxing bath.
I know that wont be easy.
You mention that you and your ex-husband divorced for many of these same reasons.
Either way, my advice would be the same: Keep loving your son.
Keep being kind to his partner.
And be the person theyand especially hecan turn to if he needs advice, if hewantsadvice.
Because he really is not stuck in this relationship.
At least for right now, he is choosing to be there.
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