Research suggests that aboutone in sevenpeople have had at least one foot-related sexual fantasy.
If youre with someone who has a foot fetisha.k.a.
Lets talk about it.
Why do people have foot fetishes?
While foot fetishes are common, a particular preference for feet can vary greatly from person to person.
But why is this happening?
Unfortunately, there isnt enough research on exactly where foot fetishes originatebut there are a few theories.
A prevailing one is that podophilia originates in the brain.
it’s possible for you to thank your somatosensory system for anything you feel.
There could be neural misfirings, thus resulting in feet being eroticized in the way genitals are.
This isnt the only hypothesis, however.
Evidence suggested that the participants eventually became aroused by looking at the black boot.
Amanda,The Kink Consultant, says, Keep lines of communication open.
Attempt to find common ground by discussing fantasies that both partners are interested in exploring.
Even if youre not willing to indulge your partners foot fetish (which is completely within your rights!)
take a stab at find out exactly what they like.
Some questions might include these:
What do you like about feet?
What do you like aboutmyfeet?
Is there anything about feet you dont like or want to explore?
What would you like to incorporate into our sex life?
Is sex the end goal of foot play for you or is foot play the end goal?
Get into specifics and talk through what youre both comfortable with before anything actually happens.
If you dont feel comfortable doing something, speak up!
However, dont forget to also check your biases at the door.
attempt to remember that a person with a fetish typically didnt choose to have it.
Have you been told feet are gross?
Regardless of your relationship, its best to start slow.
Keep an open dialogue with your partner before, during, and after trying anything.
There are so many different ways you’re able to do this.
Try crossing your feet, curling your toes so they create wrinkles on your soles, etc.
Sending a foot picture lets your partner know you want to turn them on and are excited about it.
Itll be a great way for them to feel sexually stimulated and for you to relax and unwind.
Foot jobs
Some people like exploring their fetish with some genital contact.
If youre up to it and your partner is interested, try grinding your feet against their genital area.
Communicate with them on the level of pressure, speed, and lube they like as well.
Go slow, have fun, and youll figure it out together.
